Saturday, July 28, 2007

Couples Therapy Session

A husband and wife came for counseling after 15 years of marriage. When asked what the problem was, the wife went into a passionate, painful tirade listing every problem they had ever had in the 15 years they had been married. She went on and on and on: neglect, lack of intimacy, emptiness, loneliness, feeling unloved and unlovable, an entire laundry list of un-met needs she had endured over the course of their marriage.

Finally, after allowing this to go on for a sufficient length of time, the therapist got up, walked around the desk and, after asking the wife to stand, embraced and kissed her passionately. The woman stopped speaking and quietly sat down as though in a daze.

The therapist turned to the husband and said, "This is what your wife needs at least three times a week. Can you do this?"

The husband thought for a moment and replied, "Well, I can drop her off here on Mondays and Wednesdays, but on Fridays, I fish."

1 comment:

nachtwache said...

Funny and sad, because that's so close to reality for many women. Sounds as if she had justified grievances.
I've read some books on relationships, communication etc., men's primary need seems to be respect (and food :D ), women's is to be and feel loved. I called " being treasured". My hubby likes to joke about having his knuckles drag along the ground, "why are women's feet shorter? So they can stand closer to the sink.", he likes to laugh about it and tease women that are sensitive about women's rights...I think there has to be a balance, know who can handle the jokes, be sensitive to know when it's not appropriate to be a knuckle dragging Neanderthal. My sense of humour has improved and his ability too show caring has too. When someone is raw with hurt from a "bad" relationship, it's not a good time to make light of emotions. Most of us are damaged goods, many people have a hard time trusting, because they've been hurt. Humour can be used as armor, for selfprotection and as a weapon to inflict pain.
On to 'lighter' things :) We used to spend many summer days at Spanish banks, when our son was just a baby, he got his first ocean experience there. He still loves to swim.
Beautiful pictures!
The Dennis Miller clip is having trouble loading. I'll try again.